is said that life changes dramatically when a man becomes a father, in my case from my experience as a psychologist and adult daughter now I can say that the father of a child is an experience that transforms not only the life of a man but the way to see his daughter.
is the girl who changes his life, and you'll have to see in a moment away from him. To live their lives alone or split in the company of another man who is not his father.
I have witnessed many times as the father and daughter bond so strong mark the fate of a woman. Like everything in life there are extreme cases where the father gave him all the love, attention and care to her daughter but it hurts to see her leave and also cases where a father sadly mistaken immature and causes some discomfort to his daughter as a case of violence or sexual assault. Let's not forget the typical cases where there was extreme but a sort of estrangement between father and daughter for the father's difficulty expressing affection.
These points made me think how thin the line between the love that a parent can feel for every child, in addition there are ages at which the gaze of the parent changes dramatically on her daughter.
is not the same as the dad of a girl between 5 and that can be loaded without problems, he may sleep in his bed, which can swim or even see her naked. Thing that changes when the child is already 15 years who are not going able to easily load, would be "weird" to share a bed with her, or who saw her running in front of him without clothes or to help her bathe. HAPPENED IN THIS PERIOD OF TIME, WHAT HAPPENED WITH THAT LITTLE GIRL OF 5 TO 15 NOW TO DISCOVER THAT HIS FATHER IS A PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE WOMEN AND POINT OF DESIRE FOR MEN.
is where is the first resignation of a parent, you have to accept a cap on his father's love, to let your daughter gets older and learns to trust other people different from him, how difficult it? But necessary.
I have seen men before having a daughter bond they had with women was very superficial, or tenían muy al margen de lo que realmente sentían, pero desde que les tocó ser papá de una BEBITA y darse cuenta que esa niña se convertiría en una mujer se pusieron verdes del miedo.
Hoy por ejemplo tuve sesión con varios padres y sus hijas. Por la mañana escuche la emoción de un padre primerizo que celebrará su primer día del padre con su nueva bebé, también escuche durante una sesión a una niña de 9 decir que su padre era un tonto, en la tarde a una chica de 14 decir que su papa le tenia asegurado su fondo para que ella elija la carrera que desee en la mejor universidad que elija, a otra adolescente de 16 hacer mil intentos por esconder su piercing cuando el papá hace rato que lo sabia and an adult of 19 to find a suitable time with his father to tell him about his new relationship.
always told us that the father is a figure of authority and respect, but never as one of trust and openness to be listened to and advised, this is something that many girls have gotten from their parents and that have not found what looking at a partner. Or that having a child they seek to do with children what their parents gave them.
I'm just minutes from 12 midnight and I get ready to go to rest and go see my father, grandfather and uncle in his day. But I could not stop to leave without thanking the father that I have in this life, that many times I feel like I was his mother but I have to remember that I am small and he is great, but physically I was your size at 14 and now with more years on top and with more things I learned from him, I can say it was the only man who gave me the security and confidence to never give up what they wanted, with his patience and tolerance to the test of fire, taught me to believe in me, was the one who always gave me proof of your faith and pride in what I was doing or could in the life, which got my first patients, he inherited the gift of patience and power to hear and speak calmly, who also took pictures as a little me and now I take them to him, he never will give me, and the day I left home but felt that my absence from home he was. You showed me that a man who loves is able to stay strong and patient, if not not say anything because I did not feel it because it respects what one feels, no need to impose anything, accepting the complexity of women and even willing to passing inconvenience for those who love and buy emergency pads or yellow pepper sauce to get me because they forgot to save a little. And is willing to defend her daughter at the expense of making a mess with his wife.
called me just this last line, I said how are you girl? see you tomorrow? If Daddy lies that we are already in a while. Thanks Dad for always being there when I need you for looking after me and I could tell you anything and although not quite understand you do your best to listen.
I repeat always the girls that the boys discuss things with his dad one better than him to help them learn how to decipher the actions and reactions of the men with you.
A hug to all of your day daddies and daughters make the most of those moments that still have their dad around.